Unwanted Life has managed to make it to its second year of existence, so I thought I’d mark this anniversary with another roundup article like I did for my first year.
Unwanted Life started on 7th January 2019, with its first article – Date Night: The Difficulties Of Meeting My Partner – going live on 14th January 2019. Thus, the second anniversary of Unwanted Life going live and publishing its first article is officially this Thursday. Happy anniversary to Unwanted Life.
Anniversary: What Have I Done During This Last Year?
Not long into my second year of blogging, the entire world charged. In March, my country locked the nation down as the coronavirus pandemic took hold and swept across the globe. Who would have thought at the time that such a thing would actually happen, even though we’d all been warned repeatedly that it was inevitable?
Who would have thought that during such confusing and strange times we’d also have the Black Lives Matter (BLM) sweeping across the globe as well. With this, I broke from my usual tread of staying on topic with my articles and wrote content related to BLM, one of which was the letter to my mum to try and get her to ditch her far-right stance on people like me, who just want to be treated fairly and live safe.
The previous year, I was proud about creating my Global Crisis Lines page, which I created to provide people with useful contact information for mental health support for every country I could find. This last year I created a UK Crisis Lines page with detailed information for a whole host of mental health services across the UK, covering eating disorders, anxiety, OCD, etc. I did this to provide the additional support my fellow Brits might need. At some point, I may try to do the same for the US if it’s not too complicated. However, it’s possible that, due to how states might have their own individual mental health support services in place, this could be quite a task to complete.
I also joined Time To Change’s mental health champion programme (which you might have noticed in the sidebar), to try and do more for the mental health cause and community. I created several posts around this (here, here, and here) to try and inspire others.
I redesigned my site as I got tired of the bugs with my last theme and the lack of support to try and fix them. In doing that, I also started the process of updating a lot of the images on my site to reflect my personal aesthetic. After all, I’m a Goth at heart.
I created a series of mental health, and inspirational quote images to share across my social media accounts. These images took the usual kinds of mental health phrases and inspirational quotes but instead of the cute imagery I don’t really like, I gave them my own twist for their backgrounds, so they also fitted my aesthetic.
Pinterest became a huge issue this last year. For nine months I was getting 190-200k impressions, then suddenly it just tanked to 80k, then dropped to 40k. I couldn’t figure out how to fix it and Pinterest‘s customer service team wasn’t interested in helping. I’ve been complaining to them for four months now, trying to get answers. I’ve yet to get anything useful from them. Man, I hate Pinterest.
Anniversary: My Five Favourite Posts
I think I’ve made quite a few good posts this year, if I do say so myself. My writing has gotten better and I think I’ve found a good balance between research, advice, information, and my personal accounts. Because of that, I’m actually finding it hard to pick my favourite five. But here goes, in no particular order.
My ‘Graded Exposure: The Ultimate Method To Tackle Fears‘ article was created because I had great personal success with using it and it’s often something I’ve used to help others. So I created a workbook people could easily use to practise graded exposure on themselves and then wrote the article around that. Graded exposure was the first thing to cause changes to my anxiety disorders, after 15 years of unrelenting anxiety-induced psychosis.
I wrote ‘Hikikomori: Social Anxiety Or Modern-Day Hermits?‘ because I was fascinated by the phenomenon, and often saw it presented in anime. It was a fun piece to write as it gave me a reason to investigate it more than I probably would have done otherwise. There are a lot of things about Japanese culture and history that I love, but also aspects of it that are troubling and outdated.
I’d been looking for a way to talk about my culture for a while and I finally manage to do that with my ‘Alternative Subcultures: Goths And Mental Health‘ article. I got into metal around the age of 16 and I’ve never looked back. By identifying with this kind of music, it finally allowed me to stabilise my identity problems caused by the racism I suffered growing up. Being of mixed ethnicity in a white town wasn’t a fun childhood. Metal changed that for me 🤟🏾
I wrote a letter to my mum because I couldn’t take her far-right quoted soundbites anymore and decided to turn that into my ‘Black Lives Matter: A Letter To My Mum‘ article. Unfortunately, her reply and subsequent conversations are just as ignorant as ever. I really wish my mum and I saw eye-to-eye on racism and bigotry, but it doesn’t appear to be something that’ll ever be resolved, and if it stays as it is, I don’t want anything to do with her. Blood isn’t a good enough reason to keep someone that toxic in your life. Real family is who you choose.
Because I had both positive and negative mental health experiences in gaming, I wanted to write an article that looked at both sides of the topic, rather than the common scaremongering kind. The result of that wish was ‘Is Gaming Good For Your Mental Health And Wellbeing?‘. Gaming is a big part of modern life, so it’s an important topic for a lot of people, especially as gaming seems to have increased during the pandemic, if my struggles to get a Nintendo Switch are anything to go by ha ha ha.
A big thank you goes out to all the people I’ve met and supported me and my blog along the way, and of course, to my readers, who give me the reason to keep this blog going. I hope you continue to support me and my blog.
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