When I started my blog as a personal mental health blog, I often came across other bloggers talking about spoons, which confused me. But I soon came to learn what they meant by spoons. Since those early days, my blog has grown to include invisible disabilities. It also has less personal mental health stuff, so I could focus on information sharing. Now I want to share what I learnt about spoon theory with you, my readers. I hope you find it enlightening.
What Is Spoon Theory?
The spoon theory I’m talking about isn’t the spoon theory of being born with a silver spoon, which classifies people by their inherited privilege (Kim, 2017). Spoon theory has a rather unusual beginning, but makes sense given the name. While out with a friend for dinner, Christine Miserandino was trying to explain what it was like to live with Lupus. To help explain her experience, she used the closest thing to hand, which happened to be spoons, using them to convey her energy, willpower, and motivation levels (Miserandino, 2013, April 26).
What started as a metaphor has become a useful tool for discussing the experiences of people with other chronic health conditions (Barker, 2019). The majority of people don’t give it a second thought about the energy it takes to get ready in the morning and do other daily tasks (Hope Cristol and WebMD). However, if you have a chronic health condition, this nonchalant approach to life doesn’t always work.
The theory goes that energy is a resource (University of Greenwich), a resource we use like currency. We spend these spoons (currency) on tasks throughout the day. A person with a chronic health condition may only have 18 spoons a day to expend on doing things. Although this can change depending on if they’re having a worse or better day than usual. Simple activities might require just one spoon to do, but others might require several spoons to complete. Because the spoons are finite, there’s only so many things they can do in a day.
Spoon Theory And Mental Health
Since spoon theory was created while eating with a friend, it has even been used for mental health conditions, such as anxiety. An example provided by Happiful, helps show how this would work. In their example, someone with depression might have a lack of energy, motivation, and willpower. Thus, they too have a limited number of spoons to use each day, because of the symptoms their depression is causing them.
Spoon Theory And Chronic Health Conditions
If you’ve been reading my blog since the beginning, then you’ll know I have problems with my heart. One of my symptoms they can’t seem to find a cause or a treatment for is my exercise intolerance. Previously, they thought it was because of my inappropriate sinus tachycardia. Then they tested me for postural tachycardia syndrome (PoTS), and now they’re been testing me for epilepsy. Whatever the cause is, it can be a great drain on my spoon resources. As can my inappropriate sinus tachycardia, if I don’t take my medication.
A study by Rich, Vas, Boyette, and Hollingsworth (2022) explored how 958 people with PoTS described their daily life challenges and their coping strategies. This is because PoTS can cause decreased energy, fatigue, and low endurance. Which is why I was investigated for it. The participants in the study reported that they had to conserve energy to function throughout their days, tapping into their spoon theory.
My reactive hypoglycaemia can also be a drain on my spoons. Fortunately, I can restore some of my spoons by eating regularly. Although I’d be better at spoon management if I didn’t have this condition to begin with.
Spoon Theory And Neurodivergent People
What do I mean by neurodivergent people? It is a term for people whose brains function differently to what is considered typical (Verywell Mind): they’re atypical. An example of this would be someone on the autism spectrum (ASD).
People with autism can also find themselves with a limited amount of spoons to use each day. This is especially true with children. Depending where a person is on the spectrum, will determine how many spoons they might have to use. Everything they do will require giving up some of their spoons. Therefore, you may find that an autistic child starts off the day coping well, but soon struggles later on. No amount of additional structure or teaching of social skills will help if they have no spoons left (EdPsychEd).
Remember, someone with ASD can feel overwhelmed with basic tasks, even simple communication and taking in information through their senses (Verywell Health).
As someone with dyslexia, I can find it very difficult to take in information through typical teaching methods. I can also read pages of information and then realise I’ve taken nothing in from what I’ve read, and will have to start again. But the worst, by far, is my inability to spell. I spend so much time trying to figure out how to spell words correctly, and if I can’t, what I can replace them with instead to convey the same meaning. All This makes studying for exams very difficult, to the point that I’ve rarely revised. It’s also why I don’t prep for interviews, instead choosing to do it on the fly.
How To Hoard More Spoons In Your Spoon Drawer
One well-known way to save energy is to rely on routines. Routines are energy short cuts for the brains, so the more habits you can turn into routines, the more spoons you can preserve. Then it’s just a matter of sticking to and maintaining these routines (Rich, Vas, Boyette, and Hollingsworth, 2022).
It requires a lot of energy to engage in the process of thought suppression. When you have a limited number of spoons due to mental health conditions, chronic health conditions, or because you’re neurodivergent, such a process is best avoided. Dealing with the issues that you’re trying to suppress will help conserve your spoons in the future. Think of it as an investment in your future energy levels.
Check lists and to-do lists can help prioritise tasks, tracks tasks that need to be done, and allow you to plan when to do tasks (Rich, Vas, Boyette, and Hollingsworth, 2022). These simple list strategies will help converse your spoons by allowing you to use them more effectively.
In a pinch, you can borrow spoons from the next day, but that’s not a great thing to do. Much like a loan, you not only have to pay it back, but pay it back with interest. Meaning, the following day, your new reserve of spoons is going to be less, less so than you may have thought. Like compound interest, this can add up, causing more pain, fatigue, and exacerbation of chronic health symptoms (University of Greenwich).
Simply put, pacing (or planning) is where you manage your spoons so you remain within your daily limit so you can avoid over-exertion (MEpedia). This is an approach that is taught to people with chronic health conditions like myalgic encephalomyelitis (ME, also known as chronic fatigue syndrome, CFS).
Planning your day in advance and being able to say no to invitations will help you get through the day with enough spoons remaining (Rich, Vas, Boyette, and Hollingsworth, 2022).
Accept that you don’t have an infinite amount of spoons to use as you see fit. Denying that you have limits to your number of spoons will cause you to feel exhausted and in pain all the time. There’s nothing wrong with adapting to your reality so you can live the best quality of life you can.
Be kind to yourself
I’m not sure I need to write something for this one, as you just need to do what it says on the tin. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself a break. The condition(s) you’re dealing with aren’t your fault. So don’t beat yourself up over the fact you can’t do things like you used to. Treat yourself with respect and kindness, like you would do if it was happening to a friend.
Spoon theory is a simple way to explain how much motivation, energy, and willpower you have to use each day. Because it’s simple, it’s easy to explain and easy for people to understand. Being a spooine (someone that uses spoon theory) will help you improve your quality of life so you can live the best version of you, regardless of your circumstances. So look after your spoons and your spoons will look after you.
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Kim, H. (2017). “Spoon Theory” and the fall of a populist princess in Seoul. The Journal of Asian Studies, 76(4), 839-849. Retrieved from https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/journal-of-asian-studies/article/spoon-theory-and-the-fall-of-a-populist-princess-in-seoul/38B71815A0529A8619B85E7CF78CB1E3.
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