I don’t know about you, but I’ve always struggled with motivation and self discipline. My issues with both of these were kick started with the racist abuse I endured at school. This quickly destroys your motivation, as any bullying or abuse would do. But, I think I’ve picked up a trick or two since my school days. Which I’m willing to share with you today.
According to Gorbunovs, Kapenieks, and Cakula (2016), motivation and self discipline make up the two big whales of success and boosting success. Hopefully, by the end of this article, you’ll be able to tell me if you agree with their statement or not.
What Is Self Discipline?
There are a few definitions of what self discipline floating around. The Merriam-Webster dictionary says it’s a correction/regulation of yourself for the purpose of improvement. Whereas the Collins Dictionary says it’s the ability to control yourself and make yourself work hard or behave without anyone else’s oversight. Of these two dictionary definitions, I prefer the latter.
But my favorite dictionary definition comes from Cambridge Dictionaries. It’s simple and to the point. It’s the ability to do things you know you should, even if you don’t want to.
From a non-dictionary perspective, Gorbunovs, Kapenieks, and Cakula (2016) definition of self discipline is the ability to control daily routines, which is a bit basic. Whereas Pearman and Storandt (2005) said self discipline is the ability to both begin tasks and take them to completion. I like the first part of Pearman and Storandt (2005) definition, but I’m not fully on board with the latter part.
Mind Tools say’s self discipline is the ability to push yourself forward, to take action, and a way to stay motivated, regardless of how you’re feeling physically/emotionally. Which I think is also completely right, as I don’t think motivation is always a factor in self discipline.
Because there are several ways to define self discipline, there’s a lot of wriggle room for interpretation. But for me, it’s the ability to do things you know you should do (Cambridge Dictionaries) or want to do, regardless of how you’re feeling physically and mentally. Allowing you to start a task (Pearman and Storandt, 2005) even your mind isn’t motivated to do.
What’s your definition of self discipline? Let me know in the comments section at the end of this article?
What Is Motivation?
Much like self discipline, there are several definitions of motivation that you’ll come across. With motivation having as many versions as there are human desires (PositivePsychology.com).
From the eagerness for doing something stated by Cambridge Dictionaries, the energised goal direction and action taking of PositivePsychology.com, to how motivation instigates our emotions to do something we’re interested in, stated by Gorbunovs, Kapenieks, and Cakula (2016). But I prefer the simpler definition by Baumeiste and Vohs (2007), which is any sort of drive or inclination to do something.
Motivation certainly taps into our emotions, as Gorbunovs, Kapenieks, and Cakula (2016) said, and it’s definitely any drive that makes us do something or want to do something. But, I would add that motivation can be kick-started once we start a task. This is because we have a drive to finish what we’ve started, using intrusive thoughts to do so, as I mentioned in my to-do lists article.
So what do you think about my definition of motivation? Do you have a better definition of motivation? Let me know your thoughts in the comments section at the end of the article.
Self Discipline Vs Motivation: Fight!
When it comes to talking about our goals, work, chores, etc., it’s all done through the lense of motivation. That’s just the way we, as a society, have ended up talking about something that motivation only plays a part of. Chances are, you’re never going to have the motivation to do chores as chores suck. If they were fun, they wouldn’t be called chores. They’re called chores because they’re tedious but necessary.
What we forget to talk about when talking about stuff we want or need to do is self discipline. This is what leads us to the topic of the article. Which is more important, self discipline or motivation?
The hardest part of any task, especially if you’re lacking in spoons, is getting started in the first place. This is what makes relying on just motivation a problem. Anything can come along and knock the wind out of our motivation (Gorbunovs, Kapenieks, and Cakula, 2016).
Motivation might have kept you going with your new hobbies or exercise plan for the first few days or weeks, but you might wake up one day and just not feel it. Maybe your mental health or chronic health is playing up, or maybe something has come up that’s distracted you. Motivation is fickle. As Gorbunovs, Kapenieks, and Cakula (2016) said, motivation uses our emotions to do something we’re interested in.
Whereas, self discipline is what will keep you committed to your hobbies, your exercise plan, your work (my blog), etc., even when motivation deserts you. This is what makes self-discipline important, because you don’t have to be in a good mood to make gains (Gorbunovs, Kapenieks, and Cakula, 2016).
A two-part study by Duckworth and Seligman (2005), which used two sets of eighth-grade students (study 1 had 140 participants and study 2 had 164 participants), found that self discipline predicted academic performance. Using self discipline, they predicted which students’ grades would improve, whereas IQ did not. That’s because IQ alone isn’t enough to guarantee success. You need to show up even when you don’t want to.
This is supported by Gorbunovs, Kapenieks, and Cakula (2016). They identified a problem with e-learning, in which the ability to learn anywhere at anytime could lead to less learning. This freedom to learn at your own pace falls apart without self discipline. Without high self discipline, the risk of students dropping out is higher. I imagine a lot of people have become aware of this thanks to the pandemic.
I know I’ve been having an issue with it for something I’m learning through e-learning at the moment. The first three weeks or so after starting the course, I didn’t do anything at all with it. I’ve now taken action to add a calendar reminder to do one short section of the course a week. Since doing that, I’ve managed to accomplish three weeks in a row. Go me!
Don’t get me wrong, both motivation and self discipline play an important role in our lives. If you can make both of them work in harmony, then you’re got a recipe for success. You can do this by constraining your motivation. By that I mean, say you want to get fitter. Instead of going out and buying all the gear and joining a load of exercise classes, you ease yourself into it with smaller, more manageable goals.
Start with a 10 minute yoga exercise rather than an hour spin class. This will help you retain your motivation for longer. Because, “go big or go home” can destroy your motivation on day one. Which will make using self discipline next to impossible to carry you on.
You can also add healthy rewards into the mix to help refill your motivation. The good feeling you get from getting your rewards will spur you on to achieve the next reward. If you have mental health problems or chronic health issues that sap away your motivation, then the use of self discipline can help you get your head in the game. Coupled with healthy rewards, you’ll hopefully be able to kick start your motivation as well.
My Experience With Self Discipline And Motivation
If you’ve been following me on Twitter, then you may know I got my ears tattooed. I did this because of my body image issues and because I wanted to reward myself. As I proofread the draft of this article, I just got back from getting a triple ear piercings. This was my reward for getting myself back on track with my blog. Recently, my depression has been bad, but not really bad. Just enough to tank my motivation. A plan to reward myself again with another tattoo in October, for my birthday, if I keep on top of my blog.
I’ve been finishing my articles less than 24 hours before they go live. But since setting up these piercings and tattoos as my personal healthy rewards, I’ve been able to create eight article drafts with images. Putting me ahead for the first time this year.
It’s also motivated me to consider setting up a members section with exclusive content (would that be something you’d be interested in?). This has also had a knock on effect as well. I now want to get back into doing art, and I’ve taken some tiny steps towards that.
But none of this would have come about if it wasn’t for using self discipline to do work on my blog even when I didn’t feel like it. Nine times out of ten, I had no motivation. But once I start working on an article, my motivation kicks in to drive me to finish it.
Motivation can be a great thing, because it can make us feel fantastic. The energy it gives us can be intoxicating, which is how we often go overboard and self-sabotage our motivation. Because of this, it’s self discipline that can keep us going until our motivation returns.
Mental health conditions like depression will stop us from doing things, things that might help us. However, if we can push ourselves to do things even when we don’t won’t to, then that can help bring us out of depression. To do so builds resilience, because doing things activates parts of us that can lift us up.
Before you say it, I know it can be hard to be self disciplined, especially when you’re sunk so low in depression that you just want to stay in bed. That’s the reason for small easy steps and healthy rewards. Start small, get a sense of achievement, and build upon it. And if you need to, speak to a professional to help get that ball rolling. That would be a small step and an achievement right there.
So, which do you think is most important, self discipline or motivation? Let me know in the comments section below.
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