Advice For Supporting Someone With Mental Health Problems As Suggested By Twitter

Advice For Supporting Someone With Mental Health Problems As Suggested By Twitter

I decided to pose another question to Twitter to further the cause of de-stigmatising mental health. I wanted to know what Twitter users would offer in the way of advice for supporting someone with mental health problems. I did that by asking the following question:

 

What advice would you give to someone trying to support a loved one with mental health problems?

 

Hopefully, you’ll find the suggestions made by my fellow Twitter users useful if you need them for your own situation. Or, alternatively, as something you can recommend to someone else who has found themselves in such a situation.

 
 
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1. 

My first reply came from @Behappy20002 who provided some good advice.
 

 

Just listen sometimes it isn’t always about talking and talking, the person might just need a listening ear to pour out their emotions

 

2.

@CrystalsTravels made a very important point, caregiver burnout is a very real problem. Self-care is just as important as the support you offer someone else in need.

 

 

Get outside help. Caregiver burnout is very real. Take care of yourself first. I see so many people who make themselves sick taking care of others.

 

3.

An interesting point was shared by @BLOGGTOPICS.

 

 

Always a difficult question. The automatic thing to do, I think, is to give advice to them, trying to prop them up with positive talk.
From experience, the best thing you can do is listen. Let them talk, let them get it off their chest, being there, the only thing you can do.

 

4.

@nevhaweater also took the time to provide their insight on how to support someone suffering from mental health problems.

 

 

Ask them what they’re experiencing; Ask them what they need. Then it’s #TimeToListen

 

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5.

An experience-based reply came from @JulieJulie726 who also shared what kind of help they would have benefited from, personally.

 

 

As someone caring for my son with mental health problems it is not advice I want but understanding, support and practical help

 

 

Navigating the benefit system, befriending etc

 

6.

@shaziaparv made a point about how useful it can be to seek help from support groups for the carer.

 

 

For someone looking after someone listen…encourage them to use groups that support other Carers such as #MIND and many others ..Remind them they are important in all this too and they doing great.All depends what they talk about and what concerns they have.

 

7.

Something we can all do with a little more of was suggested by @EckeardB.

 

 

Have a lot of patience

 

8.

A very good point to remember was made by someone who’s now deactivated there account.

 

https://twitter.com/henson_ss/status/1105718967153262597?s=19

 

What ever happens, it isn’t your fault

 

9.

Unfortunately this person has now deactivated there account, but they had replied with something that is very useful if we’re trying to support a loved one.

 

https://twitter.com/butterflyinwai1/status/1105746918301274112?s=19

 

Unconditional love always

 

10.

@talkingcl offers advice coming from the perspective of the person suffering from mental health who needs support.

 

 

If we lash out, or distance ourselves from you. We never mean to hurt you. And we love you more than you’ll ever know.

Your patience and support priceless

 

11.

@ItsMyCrazyBeau1 provides some advice based on their own experience of trying to help a loved one.

 

 

I would have to say to take it slow, be patient and to never give up. My nephew is autistic and the parents don’t believe that so I work with him to help him understand what is going on and how to handle things in a different way

 

12.

Similar to the advice about watching out for carer burnout, @lovemetreatme suggests making self-care a priority.

 

 

Oh man that can be tough. Selfcare would be my top answer as it is very difficult to care for anyone unless you yourself are taken care of. I would suggest implementing some type of selfcare plan so the person in question does not become mentally drained themselves

 

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13.

Seeking professional support, as suggested by @Rodders991, can be an important coping strategy to help avoid carer burnout and engaging in self-care.

 

https://twitter.com/Rodders991/status/1105904217871536129?s=19

 

I’m not a professional, but I’d make the GP first port of call.
If you think it’s an emergency then dial 999
Apart from that, just be there for them
#bless

 

14.

This suggestion was made from a protected tweet account. Thus I’m sharing their advice minus their Twitter handle.

 

I would say… Reassurance that you’re there for them. Keep questions open ended, for example ask “Why don’t you tell me how you’re feeling?” Instead of “I can see you’re feeling low”. Offering help to seek professional support too is massive. Most important…. LISTENING

 

15.

Another good piece of advice about self-care came from @PagePlacePlate.

 

 

Look after yourself as well as them – you can’t support if you too are unwell. Don’t pressure them, but make sure they know you are there for them

 

16.

A very good point was made by @sarabricknell.

 

 

You don’t have to “fix” anything. JUST BE THERE and keep being there.

 

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17.

As @DonnaHu83907965 stated in their reply, listening is very important.

 

 

To listen, sometimes if a person feels listened to, it can help them tremendously

 

18.

@AtlanticKaren also suggested patience, which it is a very important skill to practice in such situations.

 

 

Be patient. That’s for anyone suffering or trying to help

 

19.

Listening was suggested again as what to do when trying to help a loved one. This time it was suggested by @MarkDB22.

 

 

Be there. Listen. Be as involved as the loved one wants you to be and keep a watchful eye for their well being

 

20.

@lizzieeh26 made an important point.

 

 

Don’t judge, and remember you don’t always need to give solutions

 

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21.

A thoughtful suggestion care from @elizabeth_nutt.

 

 

Let them know how much you love them and that you will always love them, no matter what and no matter what lies their mental illness isntelling them re them not being worthy of your love. Make sure they know daily they are worthy of and deserve your love and support

 

22.

@themindberg also suggested self-care as being important when trying to support someone else.

 

 

I would say “look after yourself, whatever that means to you- you cannot support someone if your health is failing”. Look for support 4 the loved one (group, dr., 1-2-1) but also for the supporter. Just as you don’t want loved one to be alone in it, don’t you be alone in it

 

23.

@Sookie_smile was the fifth person to suggest listening as the kind of advice they’d offer to someone trying to support a loved one with a mental health problem.

 

 

Listen and try to understand. Be patient, kind and calm. Make them feel safe in the fact that they can open up to you. Don’t tell them what YOU think they feel because they (for the most part) know what they feel. Don’t judge. Treat them the same way as you want to be treated

 

24.

@carsonbohdi suggestion is a very important part of self-care and avoiding burnout.

 

 

set boundaries, listen if they chose to share with you, but also be an example of someone putting their needs first – don’t just take shit b/c they’re ill… but don’t turn on them for being ill either

 

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25.

@RobynMcShane points out that mental health issues are hard enough to deal with already, so try not to add to that.

 

 

Be patient. People who have mental health issues are hard enough on themselves…we need others to be patient with us when we can’t be patient with ourselves

 

26.

Love and acceptance are the most important pieces of advice that @ABSSMS66 could suggest.

 

 

Just love them as they are and accept the place they are in. Listen with an open mind and be prepared to hear regardless of how painful you may perceive it to be

 

27.

@NeverAloneNAPS provide a short list of potential ways you can better support a loved one.

 

 

Take a course like mental first aid. If they get help like a CBT course then check it out so you can help. Once in a while just tell them you are there for them. When they are lost in thought offer a positive distraction. Try to get to local peer support. Identifying with others

 

28.

@UnwantedLife_Me

 

Lastly, what would I suggest people do if they find themselves with a loved one suffering from a mental health problem?

 

Like a lot of people have suggested, patience is important in trying to support someone with mental health problems. This is also a strategy I’d suggest because mental health problems can take a very long time to work through. I know my partner seems to have a pretty big supply of patience when it comes to me and my mental health problems.

 

Listening was another suggestion that was made a lot by my fellow Twitter users. Listening and patience go together like a hand in a glove. They’re best used together to properly support someone with their mental health problems. Although they can be skills that are hard to use because we either want to hurry up and fix the person or we just don’t understand what’s going on.

 

In that regard, I’d also remind them that it’s not their job to fix their loved one, but that you can be apart of their journal to getting better.

 

I would also add that it’s important to avoid using certain phrases, like “you just need to get over it” which does more harm than good. Comparisons to other people who may have it worse I would also remind them isn’t a good idea. It doesn’t matter if someone does or doesn’t have it worse than you. What matters is how it impacts you as an individual.

 

Lastly for my suggestions, just try your best to be supportive and understanding. But also be supportive and understanding of yourself and your own needs as well.

 

Thanks to everyone that took the time to reply to my question on Twitter: even though you didn’t know you’d be contributing to one of my blog post.

 

If you found any of these lovely Twitter peoples suggestions useful, why not swing by their Twitter pages and let them know.

 

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6 thoughts on “Advice For Supporting Someone With Mental Health Problems As Suggested By Twitter

  1. There’s a great selection of advice here – thank you for featuring me but also for compiling this all! Sometimes as a carer it’s easy to forget this sort of stuff as you get so wrapped up in what’s going on, so it’s nice to have a reminder every so often.

  2. This is such a good idea. I am a Twitter addict anyway, but I have never thought of using it to fuel a post. Everyone gave such good advice too. Good job!

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