Opening The Mail
A surprising amount of people suffering from mental health problems, especially if they also have debt issues, will avoid opening the mail. I know, because I was one of those people.
For quite a long time I just let my mail stack up, putting off opening my mail for as long as I could. All this because I feared what bad news awaited for me inside the envelopes.
The problem with this is that it just reinforces your fear of your mail. It also leads to you being triggered with anxiety whenever you look or think about your mail. Not a fun way to live.
For the longest time, it seemed like the only thing I was getting in my mail was bad news. Nothing but bad news, which only made the anxiety about my mail worse. But putting off opening my mail only dragged out my anxiety. It in no way helped me to put off opening my mail and was a terribly unhealthy coping strategy. All that would happen was that it would then play on my mind constantly until I got around to opening my mail.
After years of this getting worse and worse, I decided I’d have enough. From now on I’d open my mail right away, and I still do. Ever since then I’ve opened my mail right away, even when my anxiety is triggered because of the arrival of an unexpected official-looking envelope.
It’s so much better to get it over and done with right away, rather than dragging out the pain for days and weeks: I’d still get the pain of having to open that mail I’d prolonged opening when I got around to opening it on top of all that as well.
I know in the past when I’d been struggling to stay afloat when awaiting my sickness benefits to be sorted out, not opening my mail caused me a lot of avoidable problems. I missed appointments and incurred financial penalties all because I was avoiding opening my mail. Which just made my life worse.
I still get a lot of bad mail in the post, but that hasn’t stopped me from sticking to opening my mail right away. Now, instead of making my problems worse or missing something important, I now have time to sort things out when they need to be sorted.
For example, a few days ago I got a letter from the council saying my housing benefits had been suspended. This triggered an anxiety attack, but it also left me with plenty of time before my next payment was due to sort it out, which allowed me to focus better. This then allowed me to take action immediately to find out what was going on.
It turned out it was just something that happens from time to time when the DWP want to make sure an address on their records matches up with the councils. So it was nothing to worry about in the end, and I’d successfully dealt with it on the day I got the letter. Go me.
If you’re one of those people who is still suffering from the fear of opening your mail, please do something about it. Push through the pain and open your mail as soon as you get it. Don’t kick the can down the road and make your life worse than it is. Just because you aren’t opening it, doesn’t mean it’s not causing you harm.
I know it can be hard to force yourself to open your mail, especially if you’re suffering from debt problems. But there are a lot of places you can turn to for help and support if the reason you’re avoiding your mail is due to debt.
Whatever your reason is for avoiding your mail, ripping off that bandaid will end the pain and torture of not opening your mail, and give you far more time to prepare yourself to deal with whatever news is contained within your now opened mail.
So, open your mail and find a way to handle whatever news is inside. The more time you have to deal with the, possible, bad news, the better. The more time you give yourself to work on solutions for it or seek support to deal with it will only benefit you. Trust me, It’s better in the long run to open your mail as soon as you get it.
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Citizens Advice – Debt support
Step Change – Debt charity