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Dieting To Misery: Being Overweight

Recently I’d tried to diet and cut out all carbs, thinking it’d be pretty easy to do. I lasted about a month before I had to give up, due to the fact I was dieting to misery.


After watching a TV show which outlined how the wrong kinds of carbs were responsible for weight gain (rather than the wrong kinds of fats, which I already knew), I was spurred on to do something about my weight again.


I was already bothered by the amount of weight I’d put on over the last few years due to the difficulties I have when trying to exercise. My physical health problems (The Weird Behaviour Of My Anxiety Disorders) have been a huge hindrance to keeping my weight under control.




Not only that, but I’d accidentally given myself a comfort/binge eating disorder (Did Poor Mental Health Cause My Unhealthy Relationship With Food?). This was an unforeseen consequence of training myself to no longer require relying on my friends. I used to need to go out drinking and dancing with my friends at the weekend in order to avoid an emotional breakdown.


However, because my friends would constantly let me down, I kept having breakdowns. As a result of this, I’d constantly nosedive into an extremely dark place. Thus, I used takeaways and treat foods to eliminate that need to train myself to no longer require to go out drinking and dancing.


I’d ballooned up to 15 stone in about three years


Since the development of my heart (autonomic disorders) problem during my first one-to-one counselling experience, I’d ballooned up to 15 stone in about three years. This was due to becoming more reliant on my comfort eating. I’d also started to eat more to settle my stomach down because I was always dizzy, light-headed, and nauseous. Also, if I was travelling anywhere, I had to eat to stop the nausea from becoming unbearable.


But it didn’t stop there. When I would try to exercise at the gym, a horrible episode would always be triggered. These episodes would put me out of commission within two-ish minutes of exercising, lasting 40 minutes every time (The Weirdness Of My Anxiety Disorders). Because of these episodes, I’d eat tonnes in the hopes it would help avoid them happening. The episodes would also leave me feeling really ill afterwards for several hours. Thus, I ended up eating lots more food to reduce that effect too.


All-in-all, I was either eating to reduce the effects of the symptoms caused by my physical health or I was comfort eating due to my mental health. This all lead to me putting on a lot of weight in a short space of time. Thus, diet.


Dieting required so much effort


Dieting requires so much effort. Trying to cut out carbs when everything had carbs in it was the stuff of nightmares. When I went out with my partner for dinner, it was easier to make that a cheat day because otherwise there was nothing I could eat.


It was all-consuming, worrying about how many carbs and calories I was going to eat. Looking at a food menu at a café, bar, or restaurant was filled with thoughts about how many calories or carbs each dish had. I was even thinking about how many calories and carbs were in the drinks I was ordering as well. It was so tiring thinking about this every single time we went out to eat. Sucked the fun out of the experience.


It was no picnic checking every label when going food shopping, either. It left me with very few food choices when I went food shopping.


Eventually, I found a few new items I liked that met my dieting requirements. But I soon grew tired of eating that food because that’s all I was eating. I lost interest in it, and there was nothing left that could fill that gap, even if I had lost some weight.

I was miserable.

I was depressed not because of my mental health, but because of this diet


I couldn’t take it anymore. Dieting shouldn’t make you this unhappy. I was depressed not because of my mental health, but because of this diet. I broke, and I ran headfirst into my old eating habits, and I felt so much better because of it. This, I imagine, is why a lot of people recommend you don’t diet, but rather instead find a new long-term way of eating healthily.


This dieting, which I started out being really motivated to do, became completely demotivating. It made me want to not do anything at all.


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Instead, I’m now back to my usual level of miserableness, but my motivation has returned. Although I can’t stop eating junk food, again. My self-fat-shaming intrusive thoughts are also back, which I could really do without.


Because I wanted to get results faster, I went overboard and took dieting to an extreme. As a result, the rebound of that was to put back on whatever weight I’d lost due to the dieting.


I went overboard and took dieting to an extreme


I’ve always struggled with my relationship with food (Did Poor Mental Health Cause My Unhealthy Relationship With Food?), and it’s pretty safe to say that I do have an eating disorder. It’s also safe to say that all my unhealthy food habits are back, not just binge/comfort eating, but having starvation days too. Although I haven’t had a day in the last week where I have only eaten once.




How does anyone manage to do calorie-counting diets or cut out carbs? I mean, it’s not so bad to eat under the 2000 calorie count when you’re not doing much like I am, but otherwise, how do people manage? The problems being hungry causes me are so intense that I become useless once I start to feel hungry, but I can just about bear that when I’m doing nothing at home sometimes.


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9 thoughts on “Dieting To Misery: Being Overweight

  1. This is amazing. Very open and honest. I struggle with my relationship to food as well. I thought about cutting out carbs actually but after reading this I am second thinking it. I eat for my mental health .. like comfort food.. or I try to not eat. I struggle to find a happy medium. Thank you for sharing this part of your journey.

  2. Amazingly open and great writing. The road to except own body shouldn’t be this hard, yet this is. And there are a lot of times I would like to just scream at people who says: just what you eat and you’ll in perfect sizes in no time! But this would be considered rude. As calling someone fat or overweight isn’t?

  3. I’m thankful that I don’t have the need to go on a diet as much as others, but I do understand when you say you’re dieting to misery. I know people who cry when they deprive themselves of carbs and their favorite snacks. I can’t imagine this happening to me. Thank you for sharing your story! Your vulnerability is what makes your blog special.


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