Why Men Need To Start Taking Back Control Of Their Wellness: Article
After reading the article on bulimia that I happened upon on the Men’s Health website, which then led to me writing two blog post (One Man’s Battle With Bulimia: Article and My Relationship With Food) on the subject, I decide to have another look at what other articles they have covered that might also be interesting. In doing so I found this article “Why Men Need to Start Taking Back Control of Their Wellness” which I thought I’d briefly talk about and share with my readers.
“Men are three times more likely to take their own lives than women”
The article offers some pretty shocking statistics about male mental health, and of the three people I know who have successfully killed themselves, they were all male, the person I witnessed trying to kill themselves, they too were male, and then there’s me and my unsuccessful attempts to end my life. I know anecdotal evidence doesn’t really prove anything, but that’s been my experience with suicide so far, an all-male affair. Granted, there could be people I use to know who have tried and succeeded or didn’t succeed in their suicide attempts who were female, I’m just am unaware of fact: hence anecdotal evidence not really being proof of anything.
“Men in mid-life remain overwhelmingly dependent on a female partner for emotional support”
I don’t know why men have been raised to bottle everything up, to just “play through the pain”, or “man up” because it’s literally killing us. I know I struggle with doing what’s right and healthy for me, to seek help, to reach out to people, due to being raised on the idea that that’s not what men do, we go it alone like the lone wolves we are, stoic in our manliness.
My partner wants me to share more about my suicidal thoughts, but I’ve suffered from those thoughts since I was 8 years old, it’s a daily thought process for me, it just never leads to taking action anymore. Even though I had a pretty massive breakdown over the summer that pushed me to the very brink of enacting my suicidal thoughts, I still didn’t reach out to my partner.
“Marriage breakdown is more likely for men to lead to suicide”
I don’t see the point in sharing all the darkness inside of me with my partner, causing them to worry about me all the time because there’s nothing they can do to help me. I know this is an unhealthy way to be, and I probably should share it all with them, I just don’t believe theirs any point in sharing it unless they can do something to help.
On the flipside to that, if someone asks about my mental health or physical health I’ll answer honestly about my problems because I don’t see the point in lying about it. I have no issues discussing my problems with anyone who wants to listen, I just don’t want to burden them with knowledge of my problems and my situation, unless they can help tackle it. Who really wants to know your loved one struggles with daily suicidal thoughts while knowing they’re powerless to do anything about it? That to me seems like a terrible burden for me to place on someone.
There is one exception, I’ll discuss my problems with others if I feel it’ll help them in someone way, rather than it being just if they can help me or if they’ve asked about it. If my experiences can help someone else, then at least something worthwhile has come out of it.
“when it comes to our wellness, we approach it with caution. After all, wellness is a women’s thing, right?”
The article goes on to talk about the importance of talking about such ignored males issues as testicular self-exams and erectile health, which obviously can be a source of shame and embarrassment, but at the same time, talking about it and seeking help for it can lead to having a better quality of life, after all, viagra is there for a reason, so theirs no reason to let your sex life suffer.
So grab your balls and check for lumps, most men are already playing with them anyway, so you may as well check their in prime condition while you’re at it. Because looking after ourselves is more than just making sure we’re not getting too fat, about building muscle, and eating our 5 a day, it’s also about looking after your mental health, coping with stress, and reaching out for support before you find yourself in a crisis situation.
Although this article is aimed at a male audience, everyone should try and look after the complete health, not just worry about their weight, although such things as testicular health may not apply to all of you.
Take time for self-care, you’re worth it.